I consider myself to be an optimistic realist, and I feel like I give people the benefit of the doubt. I try to be sincere and not judgmental, but shit some people make that difficult.
I like to believe that people are inherently good--that all people are sensitive to others' needs and selfless. The unfortunate reality is that most individuals are both dumb and inconsiderate--waiting tables has introduced me to this concept.
For instance, I was serving this lady not too long ago, and things started out fairly well. I greeted her with a smile and told her my name, and was semi-interrupted by her harsh request "I'll take a diet coke, extra ice." No big deal. (It happens all the time, in fact I would venture to say that maybe 3 out of 10 tables will answer a "hi, how are you doing?" with the response "diet coke".)
Anyway, I bring her her drink and she orders a pizza, which takes a little longer than the average entree as it is made-to-order. She then complains to me about 6 minutes after ordering that her food is taking too long, which isn't too uncommon either.
Really lady? There are kids in Africa that would wait 2 weeks to eat the meal that you are about to obliviously consume, and you are complaining that it isn't out in 5 minutes?
The thing is is that I encounter so many people that are so used to getting everything that they don't appreciate anything, and it astounds me. So many people that come out to eat need SO much attention, and are SO hateful about it. I really think some people get off on telling someone else what to do.
Another good one---a fellow server waited a table on my last shift that told her right off the bat "we don't have enough money to tip you, so sorry." Really? If you budget is that tight, shouldn't you be buying your spaghetti and meat sauce from Kroger? It would cost $3 there instead of $10 here. I wanted to throw hot coffee on them.
I try to be appreciative for what I do have, as I live in one of the wealthiest countries on the planet, and already have more than I could ever dream of needing. Why do few share this concept? When you go out to eat, be respectful and appreciative. When I have kids, they will KNOW THIS!
yes your child will know this....especially if i am his momma! ;)
ReplyDelete"we don't have enough money to tip you, so sorry."
ReplyDeleteReally? Sorry? Why not just ask for the waiter to spit in your food and wait on your table last? If a person doesn't have the common decency and sense to not bring their ass into a restaurant without enough money to tip the waiter you'd think they'd have a brain to not be so upfront about it.
It's true, though. Americans have the idea of need vs. want tangled together.
the rule of thumb, just so everyone knows,is if you dont have enough money to tip then you dont have enough to eat. but rock of love bus is on now and im gonna have to watch that!
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