The complexity of love

I always thought I knew what love was--not family or friend love, but romantic love. I didn't.

You see it on TV and read about it in books, but the actual complexity of love seems to evade a majority of people. No, it isn't always rainbows, balloons and poetry. In fact, it rarely meets the ideals of televised perfection. I have discovered what love is, and it wasn't exactly what I had imagined.

Yes, I am in love, and yes I love it, but love is boot camp for your emotions. There are a lot of ups and downs, but that is what makes you respect and want what you have. After all, you never want something that is easy----easy come easy go.

People tell me what love should be, yet most of those people tell me they have never been in love. Reality will prove that TV paints the "love life" as much more poetic than reality (don't get me wrong, it is great, but no one is perfect and nothing is perfect and I am very happy and very much in love).

You will have fights, and you will have disagreements, and if you are expecting to have love without these things, than you have unrealistic expectations. I see so many people say that they had someone great, but it just wasn't what they saw in the movies, and I begin to wonder is culture beginning to define love as something that isn't real?


I have talked to people about the idea of love and received responses such as "love should be easy or something you don't have to work for. It is something that just naturally happens." To this and those who believe this, I will tell you that you are just wrong.

Love isn't easy, and it takes work. People just wait for it to plop down in your lap without any effort or care, and it won't happen.

Now whether you think it is worth the effort to work through problems is your decision, but I will tell you this. There are very few people in your life that you will feel an intense connection with, and it be a mutual feeling. Those connections are worth working for and trying to make last--now I am sure that are some irreparable situations that may prove me wrong, but I am speaking generally. If you have something that makes you feel complete, you will have to work for it.

People have to realize that what comes easy leaves easier.